Remember all those online dates I was going on? The ones that typically weren’t going all that swimmingly?
Turns out that maybe my luck is changing.
The last one — right before Christmas — I walked away from thinking, “Not really my type, but she was nice to talk to. I could do this again.”. But I didn’t get a reply to my “Had a good time!” text, and I wrote her off just like all the others.
(I felt like sending her a note: “Do you want to be my friend? Check yes or no…” yes, I’m too cool…)
But – it turns out she was just kind of caught up with the holidays (she has two small kids) and forgot to get back to me. And after a series of texts and emails, I think I might have found a city buddy! She lives right in the area where I’m planning on getting an apartment and we have a lot in common, from both being runners/bikers to having a lifestyle that doesn’t typically include a lot of hitting the clubs, drinking to oblivion and staying out until 5am (though every once in awhile a girl’s gotta figuratively let her hair down, right?) (figuratively since my hair is cut pretty short… not much “letting down” to it).
And I’m excited! I don’t anticipate this thing developing into anything romantic, but we’re already starting to plan activities together: going to a Blackhawks game, joining a book club (at a feminist book store in her neighborhood) and things like that. Just what I’ve been looking for: not only someone to do things with, but someone who lives where I want to be, is gay and can potentially help me to develop a larger LGBT circle of friends (you know, larger than 1).
I like that this is how my year is starting out — a little anticipation goes a long way. And she’s got to have friends, right? She’s not glomming onto me just because she’s got no one else, right?? So – theoretically – one of her friends could be my soulmate. Or at least someone to hook up with? (what can I say – it’s been way too long a time for me…)
And now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to start reading so I’ve got my homework done for all the hot women that will be at the book club!